Friendship, friendship , friendship. This is one of the most emphasized issues that come up regarding how teens live their lives. With close observation, one can tell that teens of today really don’t know what friendship is all about and often mistaken friendship with acquaintance. It takes a lot to call some your friend. Truly before one can regard someone else as their friend, there are couple things that have to be put into consideration.
First of all, one has to know the person inside out e.g personality, history, family etc. Secondly, a true friend should always understand you. Thirdly, a true friend should also have your back or show support when ever you need it. Also, a true friend have a positive impact in your life i.e only tell you or encourage you to do positive things and he or she should ALWAYS tell you the truth regardless if it hurts or not. And finally, a true friend will never talk reckless about you and will always stand up for you in any situation. If you have any one in your life that you call a friend and doesnt pose such characteristics, that person is really not a friend. I am going to share a brief story with your to explain my point.
We all know the normal university life when one just gets into the university. You always want to meet people and socialise. This is something that was going thru everyone’s mind and my case was not different. I wanted to meet people from the same background as me. I was so much ready to make friends which such people regardless who they truly are. With time, i made friends with a group of 6 boys from the same part of the world as me. At first the hanging around thing was cool and I felt so comfortable around them. After a while, I decided to take them in as friends and they made me feel like I was theirs as well. Gradually with time, their true colours started showing and I was surprised by the kind of behaviour they showed and the kind of mentality they had as well. They also had one main behaviour among which is selfishness. Any one that is selfish should not be regarded as a friend and that is something I failed to realise early. There was one particular event that happened that made me finally realise that they were not good enough to be called friends. One particular period, I had a financial problem, I had suddenly gone broke, I could hardly take care of myself nor pay my bills and I needed help urgently. I thought I had my friends to lean on at that period but unfortunately they were no where to be found. Any one I asked for help said no and gave me different reasons why he could not lend me money. These same friends of mine are the one always spending a lot of money on girls, alcohol and partying but when I am in need, they can’t help me?? When I was financially stable, I provided loads of stuff for them e.g. food, grocery shopping, alcohol etc but now that I am in need, I have been abandoned. This story really sums up what true friends or friendships are all about. Teens out there should consider some factors before choosing their friends. I have learnt my lesson. I hope you learn yours.
>>From a guy’s Point of view.
Monday, 23 November 2009
Tuesday, 17 November 2009
Friends. Part 1.
Back then when I was younger and about to go to school. My mum normally sat me down and she tells me to be careful with the type of friends I keep.I never really understood that. I said to myself friends are friends. It does not really matter who you keep. I mean it does not mean that if they party, you will party or if they steal you will steal. As I said I was YOUNGER then.
One thing I failed to realize is that it is not all about what they do. But also about how people perceive you. I only looked at what she was saying from one side, I did not consider the others.
A lot of people have gotten into trouble just because of the friends they keep. For example, I had a pal. He was a pretty decent guy, studies well, does not party all of that. Then one night his "friends" told him to follow them to the back of school, that they want to strike a deal and they wanted him to help them watch out. He did not see the big deal so he decided to go, after all they were his friends right. WRONG! anyway, it was really dark, so he found it difficult to see, but tried to keep a look out anyway, meanwhile those he was protecting, were behind the tree beating up a junior that they threatened earlier that day, and had arranged for his turn up. My friend kept hearing shouts, but could leave to check because he was meant to keep a look out and did not want to get into trouble. He was whispering to them, "guys keep it low i thought you were striking a deal, we need to go soon" but he got no reply. Then all of a sudden he saw a flash light. "SECURITY" he screamed then everyone ran, he did too. But was too slow. to cut the long story short. He and a few of his friends got into trouble. That was when he realized what was really going on. He got punished for something he was practically innocent of. although not completely. You see, he did not have to be part of those beating the boy, just because he was there at the wrong time, doing the wrong thing. He got in trouble. He learnt his lesson.
People, I know it might be a bit difficult, but it is always good to study those people you call your friends. A lot of people pretend. I know. But, they can not pretend forever. If you can not help the person when you notice a flaw. It is always good to reduce the closeness between you and that person. AND NOTE!!>> a lot of people think they can change their friends. You can not do that unless your friend actually wants to change. That is of course if they have a problem that needs change.
Some people ask" are there still real friends in this world?. The answer is YES! they are rare, but they are there.
Another thing is, the general saying goes. Birds of the same feather flock together. If you move around with a bunch of rifraffs, just because they are fun, not that you are necessary one. You will still be tagged as one. Someone can define you this way>> From Sarah to jean 'Oh do you know John?'Jean says "umm no I dont think so...wait joHn, is he always with those guys who crash parties?" sarah answers "yeh that one he doesnt crash parties tho..but"Jean cuts in "oh please he is always with them he might Just as well!" sarah says "that is true" and the convo continues. trust me that is how John is now defined and that happenes alot. The kind of friends you keep provides the easiest way to define you. Suffering from being tagged? then learn from this and either talk to your friends about this or try to create that well deserved space especially if you are not guilty of their sin.
If you have any experiences regarding friends please share, through your comments, or just leave your opinions on this. Thanks for reading. More coming soon.
From a girls point of view.
One thing I failed to realize is that it is not all about what they do. But also about how people perceive you. I only looked at what she was saying from one side, I did not consider the others.
A lot of people have gotten into trouble just because of the friends they keep. For example, I had a pal. He was a pretty decent guy, studies well, does not party all of that. Then one night his "friends" told him to follow them to the back of school, that they want to strike a deal and they wanted him to help them watch out. He did not see the big deal so he decided to go, after all they were his friends right. WRONG! anyway, it was really dark, so he found it difficult to see, but tried to keep a look out anyway, meanwhile those he was protecting, were behind the tree beating up a junior that they threatened earlier that day, and had arranged for his turn up. My friend kept hearing shouts, but could leave to check because he was meant to keep a look out and did not want to get into trouble. He was whispering to them, "guys keep it low i thought you were striking a deal, we need to go soon" but he got no reply. Then all of a sudden he saw a flash light. "SECURITY" he screamed then everyone ran, he did too. But was too slow. to cut the long story short. He and a few of his friends got into trouble. That was when he realized what was really going on. He got punished for something he was practically innocent of. although not completely. You see, he did not have to be part of those beating the boy, just because he was there at the wrong time, doing the wrong thing. He got in trouble. He learnt his lesson.
People, I know it might be a bit difficult, but it is always good to study those people you call your friends. A lot of people pretend. I know. But, they can not pretend forever. If you can not help the person when you notice a flaw. It is always good to reduce the closeness between you and that person. AND NOTE!!>> a lot of people think they can change their friends. You can not do that unless your friend actually wants to change. That is of course if they have a problem that needs change.
Some people ask" are there still real friends in this world?. The answer is YES! they are rare, but they are there.
Another thing is, the general saying goes. Birds of the same feather flock together. If you move around with a bunch of rifraffs, just because they are fun, not that you are necessary one. You will still be tagged as one. Someone can define you this way>> From Sarah to jean 'Oh do you know John?'Jean says "umm no I dont think so...wait joHn, is he always with those guys who crash parties?" sarah answers "yeh that one he doesnt crash parties tho..but"Jean cuts in "oh please he is always with them he might Just as well!" sarah says "that is true" and the convo continues. trust me that is how John is now defined and that happenes alot. The kind of friends you keep provides the easiest way to define you. Suffering from being tagged? then learn from this and either talk to your friends about this or try to create that well deserved space especially if you are not guilty of their sin.
If you have any experiences regarding friends please share, through your comments, or just leave your opinions on this. Thanks for reading. More coming soon.
From a girls point of view.
Saturday, 14 November 2009
Popularity...Good or Bad?
Hey... its Mrita.. and i am back with another one...just sit back relax and read.
Well most of us are familiar with the heading of this post.. especially the word popularity.
In fact most people our age want to be popular amongst friends, in our class, and in our schools as a whole cos loads of goodies come with it. WELL ever thought of the disadvantages??
Do not get me wrong I am not saying that its not good to be popular, after all everything has its advantages and disadvantages. Take this story for example.
Back when i just started high school, I went there meek and naive did not know anything and I was like i would go there to do well and get out!... well its not all we plan that happen.
Days went by and I was taking them as they came. then one day there was an announcement. 'Freshers, there will be socials, get ready to dance and form steps to different songs. Prizes will be awarded" everyone was excited running helter skelter forming groups to start practicing. well me, i was indifferent.A senior student called me and asked "arent you dancing?' and I am like 'errr nope' and she is like why? i just kept quiet, cos i had no answer myself.
then she said, Dance for me. I was like i cant, she said you can and you will and then put the cd player on. Then i started, by swinging from left to right slowly,as time went I started getting into it,i did not know when the music overtook me,then the music stopped. I heard people clapping thats when i realized the room was very full. I smiled. But little did i know that will be the beginning of my downfall in that school
I immediately went from the quiet shy one to popular one. everyone knew me. i even had a nickname. cant say it here cos its embarrassing..lol,I kept dancing, people always called me to hang out,i had a lot of friends and sadly a lot of enemies. senior students believed it got into my head and started picking on me. making me do tedious jobs, I suffered a lot of bullying. The friends I thought i had became hostile towards me after a while, because of my status. they thought it was getting to me. But it was not. I just became more withdrawn. Then I finally left the school. All because of popularity.
Now do not get me wrong. I wont say it is wrong to be popular. But it needs to be handled with great care. I could not handle mine.
Its could be good thing, but it has a lot of flaws. I moved to a new school and hardly danced. I learnt from my mistake. Learn from yours!.>> From a girl's point of view.
Got an experience to share? please feel free to share yours through your comments and give your opinion on this.
Well most of us are familiar with the heading of this post.. especially the word popularity.
In fact most people our age want to be popular amongst friends, in our class, and in our schools as a whole cos loads of goodies come with it. WELL ever thought of the disadvantages??
Do not get me wrong I am not saying that its not good to be popular, after all everything has its advantages and disadvantages. Take this story for example.
Back when i just started high school, I went there meek and naive did not know anything and I was like i would go there to do well and get out!... well its not all we plan that happen.
Days went by and I was taking them as they came. then one day there was an announcement. 'Freshers, there will be socials, get ready to dance and form steps to different songs. Prizes will be awarded" everyone was excited running helter skelter forming groups to start practicing. well me, i was indifferent.A senior student called me and asked "arent you dancing?' and I am like 'errr nope' and she is like why? i just kept quiet, cos i had no answer myself.
then she said, Dance for me. I was like i cant, she said you can and you will and then put the cd player on. Then i started, by swinging from left to right slowly,as time went I started getting into it,i did not know when the music overtook me,then the music stopped. I heard people clapping thats when i realized the room was very full. I smiled. But little did i know that will be the beginning of my downfall in that school
I immediately went from the quiet shy one to popular one. everyone knew me. i even had a nickname. cant say it here cos its embarrassing..lol,I kept dancing, people always called me to hang out,i had a lot of friends and sadly a lot of enemies. senior students believed it got into my head and started picking on me. making me do tedious jobs, I suffered a lot of bullying. The friends I thought i had became hostile towards me after a while, because of my status. they thought it was getting to me. But it was not. I just became more withdrawn. Then I finally left the school. All because of popularity.
Now do not get me wrong. I wont say it is wrong to be popular. But it needs to be handled with great care. I could not handle mine.
Its could be good thing, but it has a lot of flaws. I moved to a new school and hardly danced. I learnt from my mistake. Learn from yours!.>> From a girl's point of view.
Got an experience to share? please feel free to share yours through your comments and give your opinion on this.
Friday, 13 November 2009
for the ladies!.....guys u can back me on this one.
good day everyone. i am here to talk about the way some ladies dress. whatever i am gonna say is really gonna help the ladies but some guys will be mad because some secrets have been let out. sorry guys, i don't mean to touch any nerve but the truth has to be said.
most gals of this present age believe it is actually sexy to expose a lot of skin for the opposite sex to see, they are quick to forget the saying that states what is not seen is sexier than what is seen. the newest development amongst female teens is the showing of cleavage. thinking 'he will notice me', the guys love it so much!!. ladies i dont wanna burst your bubbles but i got bad news for y'all. showing cleavage is not being SEXY!! LOL. real talk tho. let me share 2 true life experiences. The first:on one good friday, me and my friends decided to head for a house party. we got there, we were doing our normal thing, drinking and trying to have fun and all. we were chilling at a particular spot and from this spot you can probably see everyone in the party. all of a sudden, this girl with a big chest stepped into the scene. All eyes on her like tupac. RIP realest rapper ever. back to my story, not only did the gal have a big chest (if you know what i mean), she was also exposing a lot of cleavage. a lot of dudes were like WOW.
out of nowhere we saw this dude step up to babe and he was trying to chat her up. thru out the 10mins convo, the dude never looked at her for once, it felt as if he was having the conversation with her chest instead. i am sure he did not even realize what he was doing.LOL. she probably thought he was interested in talking to her, but we know better.He had no interest in her AT ALL only what she was exposing. LADIES DO YOU WANT THAT GIRL TO BE YOU? believe it or not guys do not respect those type of girls.
At the end of the day, the point of sharing this experience is to let the ladies out there know dat when expose cleavage and a guy is trying to move you or get close to you, he doesn't have care about what you look like or who u truly are. At that moment he will definitely make good compliment and say you are looking SEXY but as soon as he gets what he wants, ladies you are no longer sexy to him. ladies you can also look sexy without exposing a lot of skin. Just look nice and you can do so without exposing too much.
STAY TUNED FOR THE NEXT STORY! Please leave your comments and opinions
FROM a GuY's PoInT oF ViEW.:)
most gals of this present age believe it is actually sexy to expose a lot of skin for the opposite sex to see, they are quick to forget the saying that states what is not seen is sexier than what is seen. the newest development amongst female teens is the showing of cleavage. thinking 'he will notice me', the guys love it so much!!. ladies i dont wanna burst your bubbles but i got bad news for y'all. showing cleavage is not being SEXY!! LOL. real talk tho. let me share 2 true life experiences. The first:on one good friday, me and my friends decided to head for a house party. we got there, we were doing our normal thing, drinking and trying to have fun and all. we were chilling at a particular spot and from this spot you can probably see everyone in the party. all of a sudden, this girl with a big chest stepped into the scene. All eyes on her like tupac. RIP realest rapper ever. back to my story, not only did the gal have a big chest (if you know what i mean), she was also exposing a lot of cleavage. a lot of dudes were like WOW.
out of nowhere we saw this dude step up to babe and he was trying to chat her up. thru out the 10mins convo, the dude never looked at her for once, it felt as if he was having the conversation with her chest instead. i am sure he did not even realize what he was doing.LOL. she probably thought he was interested in talking to her, but we know better.He had no interest in her AT ALL only what she was exposing. LADIES DO YOU WANT THAT GIRL TO BE YOU? believe it or not guys do not respect those type of girls.
At the end of the day, the point of sharing this experience is to let the ladies out there know dat when expose cleavage and a guy is trying to move you or get close to you, he doesn't have care about what you look like or who u truly are. At that moment he will definitely make good compliment and say you are looking SEXY but as soon as he gets what he wants, ladies you are no longer sexy to him. ladies you can also look sexy without exposing a lot of skin. Just look nice and you can do so without exposing too much.
STAY TUNED FOR THE NEXT STORY! Please leave your comments and opinions
FROM a GuY's PoInT oF ViEW.:)
Saturday, 7 November 2009
STORIES, STORIES, STORIES.
hello again, now that the introduction has been put in place lets get to the fun part,
I have a few stories to tell about myself, which will probably make you more comfortable to bring out stories about yourselves as well, I aim to be successful although it might look difficult but I know I will get there. All my life i have tried to be different, because I never wanted to be in the stereo type of bad teenagers, or called a black sheep and all, but by trying to achieve that, I made a whole different type of mistakes which i will share on here from time to time. Just like most of you, when I look back i can not believe i could be that way, but we live to learn everyday. There will be topics i will put up i need your comments and opinions from time to time.
Please feel free to share your stories about relationships, drugs, peer pressure, sexual issues and any other type of issue you may have, including family issues. do not worry, you can be anonymous.
stay tuned for my first story coming soon!!!....stay safe!
I have a few stories to tell about myself, which will probably make you more comfortable to bring out stories about yourselves as well, I aim to be successful although it might look difficult but I know I will get there. All my life i have tried to be different, because I never wanted to be in the stereo type of bad teenagers, or called a black sheep and all, but by trying to achieve that, I made a whole different type of mistakes which i will share on here from time to time. Just like most of you, when I look back i can not believe i could be that way, but we live to learn everyday. There will be topics i will put up i need your comments and opinions from time to time.
Please feel free to share your stories about relationships, drugs, peer pressure, sexual issues and any other type of issue you may have, including family issues. do not worry, you can be anonymous.
stay tuned for my first story coming soon!!!....stay safe!
Firstly....
Hey everyone...I am better-teen.. in other words I created this blog,a lot of people who see this at first may think..yeh i am sure she is a mother or she is really old and trying to help us.. but funny enough i am a teen like most of you on here.. this forum has been set in place to help many of us out there.. who need this help but do not have anyone trust worthy to get it from. We teenagers we find it difficult to trust people and most of us end up being secretive and that leads to us making decisions on our own, which turn out to be mistakes. I have made mistakes, You have made mistakes, that does not make us failures. But what really determines our success is our ability to sit down revaluate and learn from these mistakes. ARE YOU READY?
I urge all of you, who stumble on this one way or the other.. to pause and read. you can write about your experiences, mistakes and how you moved on from that, give your comments on other peoples experiences, but please do not be judgmental, I will give advice where i can.
ONCE AGAIN...WELCOME.
I urge all of you, who stumble on this one way or the other.. to pause and read. you can write about your experiences, mistakes and how you moved on from that, give your comments on other peoples experiences, but please do not be judgmental, I will give advice where i can.
ONCE AGAIN...WELCOME.
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