Friends. Part 1.

Back then when I was younger and about to go to school. My mum normally sat me down and she tells me to be careful with the type of friends I keep.I never really understood that. I said to myself friends are friends. It does not really matter who you keep. I mean it does not mean that if they party, you will party or if they steal you will steal. As I said I was YOUNGER then.

One thing I failed to realize is that it is not all about what they do. But also about how people perceive you. I only looked at what she was saying from one side, I did not consider the others.

A lot of people have gotten into trouble just because of the friends they keep. For example, I had a pal. He was a pretty decent guy, studies well, does not party all of that. Then one night his "friends" told him to follow them to the back of school, that they want to strike a deal and they wanted him to help them watch out. He did not see the big deal so he decided to go, after all they were his friends right. WRONG! anyway, it was really dark, so he found it difficult to see, but tried to keep a look out anyway, meanwhile those he was protecting, were behind the tree beating up a junior that they threatened earlier that day, and had arranged for his turn up. My friend kept hearing shouts, but could leave to check because he was meant to keep a look out and did not want to get into trouble. He was whispering to them, "guys keep it low i thought you were striking a deal, we need to go soon" but he got no reply. Then all of a sudden he saw a flash light. "SECURITY" he screamed then everyone ran, he did too. But was too slow. to cut the long story short. He and a few of his friends got into trouble. That was when he realized what was really going on. He got punished for something he was practically innocent of. although not completely. You see, he did not have to be part of those beating the boy, just because he was there at the wrong time, doing the wrong thing. He got in trouble. He learnt his lesson.

People, I know it might be a bit difficult, but it is always good to study those people you call your friends. A lot of people pretend. I know. But, they can not pretend forever. If you can not help the person when you notice a flaw. It is always good to reduce the closeness between you and that person. AND NOTE!!>> a lot of people think they can change their friends. You can not do that unless your friend actually wants to change. That is of course if they have a problem that needs change.

Some people ask" are there still real friends in this world?. The answer is YES! they are rare, but they are there.

Another thing is, the general saying goes. Birds of the same feather flock together. If you move around with a bunch of rifraffs, just because they are fun, not that you are necessary one. You will still be tagged as one. Someone can define you this way>> From Sarah to jean 'Oh do you know John?'Jean says "umm no I dont think so...wait joHn, is he always with those guys who crash parties?" sarah answers "yeh that one he doesnt crash parties tho..but"Jean cuts in "oh please he is always with them he might Just as well!" sarah says "that is true" and the convo continues. trust me that is how John is now defined and that happenes alot. The kind of friends you keep provides the easiest way to define you. Suffering from being tagged? then learn from this and either talk to your friends about this or try to create that well deserved space especially if you are not guilty of their sin.

If you have any experiences regarding friends please share, through your comments, or just leave your opinions on this. Thanks for reading. More coming soon.

From a girls point of view.