Friends Part 2

Friendship, friendship , friendship. This is one of the most emphasized issues that come up regarding how teens live their lives. With close observation, one can tell that teens of today really don’t know what friendship is all about and often mistaken friendship with acquaintance. It takes a lot to call some your friend. Truly before one can regard someone else as their friend, there are couple things that have to be put into consideration.
First of all, one has to know the person inside out e.g personality, history, family etc. Secondly, a true friend should always understand you. Thirdly, a true friend should also have your back or show support when ever you need it. Also, a true friend have a positive impact in your life i.e only tell you or encourage you to do positive things and he or she should ALWAYS tell you the truth regardless if it hurts or not. And finally, a true friend will never talk reckless about you and will always stand up for you in any situation. If you have any one in your life that you call a friend and doesnt pose such characteristics, that person is really not a friend. I am going to share a brief story with your to explain my point.
We all know the normal university life when one just gets into the university. You always want to meet people and socialise. This is something that was going thru everyone’s mind and my case was not different. I wanted to meet people from the same background as me. I was so much ready to make friends which such people regardless who they truly are. With time, i made friends with a group of 6 boys from the same part of the world as me. At first the hanging around thing was cool and I felt so comfortable around them. After a while, I decided to take them in as friends and they made me feel like I was theirs as well. Gradually with time, their true colours started showing and I was surprised by the kind of behaviour they showed and the kind of mentality they had as well. They also had one main behaviour among which is selfishness. Any one that is selfish should not be regarded as a friend and that is something I failed to realise early. There was one particular event that happened that made me finally realise that they were not good enough to be called friends. One particular period, I had a financial problem, I had suddenly gone broke, I could hardly take care of myself nor pay my bills and I needed help urgently. I thought I had my friends to lean on at that period but unfortunately they were no where to be found. Any one I asked for help said no and gave me different reasons why he could not lend me money. These same friends of mine are the one always spending a lot of money on girls, alcohol and partying but when I am in need, they can’t help me?? When I was financially stable, I provided loads of stuff for them e.g. food, grocery shopping, alcohol etc but now that I am in need, I have been abandoned. This story really sums up what true friends or friendships are all about. Teens out there should consider some factors before choosing their friends. I have learnt my lesson. I hope you learn yours.
>>From a guy’s Point of view.